The name's Yvonne, how do you do? Just a 20-something trying to get through life. Started with the intent of artistic endeavors but got sidetracked with reblogs. Lover of creative things, equality, Doctor Who and A:TLA. She'd love to hear from you!
Dear Feminists, this is how retarded you act like in real life:
Let’s start by ignoring the fact that all you look like here is an over-zealous Monopoly player.
No one is asking to be mugged. If you went out dressed like this (and that was real money), you aren’t asking to be mugged. You don’t want to be mugged. You don’t deserve to be mugged.
The reality of the situation is that, yes, you’re somewhat more likely to be mugged if you’re dressed like that. But you’re still not “asking for it”, and if you were to press charges against the person who mugged you? No one would claim you were. You wouldn’t have to fight to have your attacker face consequence. If you were someone of enough importance that you being mugged would be reported on the news, the media would not sympathize with your attackers and say that you’re ruining their lives by reporting that they mugged you. They would get the standard sentence, and the fact that you happened to be dressed in a way that showcased you have a lot of money.
You wouldn’t be alienated and belittled by your friends and family or abandoned by your significant other for something you couldn’t control. You wouldn’t be denied coverage for any medical attention you may need because the police “couldn’t be sure you were mugged” even if there was more than enough evidence.
You wouldn’t be forced to be surrounded by people making jokes where the crime committed against you is the punchline.
Because no one is “asking” to be mugged.
If you were wearing a shirt that said “Kill me” and someone murdered you, would people say you were asking for it? No. For any other crime, no one is ever considered to have been asking for it.
The problem is that rape is treated differently. Even though it’s just as horrific a crime as being mugged or robbed, and often has far worse psychological effects in the long run, it’s treated as a fact of life and it happening is so frequently considered to be the fault of the victim. (Even though this inherently doesn’t make sense, because how can you be asking for something that is by definition a non-consensual act?)
Victims are being blamed for the actions of criminals, and that (at least for a white, heterosexual, cisgender man like yourself) would never happen in regard to any other crime. It’s inexcusable.
Because you know what? Women are not raped because of what they’re wearing, or how much they had to drink, or any other factor. Completely sober women in turtlenecks and cargo pants are raped. Women were raped in petticoats and bloomers. Rape happens because of the rapists, not the victims. Even if no woman ever showed an inch of skin or ever impaired their judgement with recreational drinking, rape would still happen.
And yet society is systematically protecting the criminals at the expense of the victims. If that happened with murderers, there would be a world-wide outcry.
The moral of the story is, stop thinking of rape as “just sex” or what have you. It’s a crime and it needs to be treated like any other crime.
Angryfeministlucifer is the bomb
Mr. Monopoly up there doesn’t seem to realize that women in Middle Eastern countries, forced by society to wear clothes that cover every inch of their bodies except for their eyes (for the ironic purpose of keeping men from touching them, becoming aroused by them, or allowing a woman to be seen as indecent) still get raped.
How are they ever asking for it?
In a culture where women do not get to choose how to dress, they still are raped and blamed for it happening. They are still stoned to death and their families act ashamed—as if it is their fault.
In America we claim women have a choice. A woman may dress just about any way she pleases. Yet if she is raped it is her fault for dressing like “she wants it” or is “asking for it”. I didn’t realize “asking for it” was a completely non-verbal act of communication that doesn’t require eye-contact, smiling, nodding of the head, pulling their partner closer or hand-holding. Consensual indicators.
So tell me: how is it a woman’s fault? Covering her entire body, she is raped, dressing in sweatpants she is raped, in a short skirt she is raped.
You know what the answer is? It’s not. It is NEVER the victims fault. Male or female, covered or not, a victim doesn’t ask for a crime to be committed against them that is by nature, against their will. It is literally impossible.
you know, it’s early and I’m already on a reblog spree… I should just queue things up since I won’t be around today